Gay brothers? my brother is gay and just wont come out with it!! what should i do?? do i tell him or let him be hiding in the closet!!
HELP!!!!!1 |
| Just tell him that he can talk to you if he needs to. Then, let him make up his own mind about coming out. If he's really gay, I doubt that he'll reject support forever. |
What do you feel is the best way to get our gay brothers off crystal meth? For one reason or another, too many of our gay brothers are turning to crystal meth. Go online and you'll see it's getting worse and worse. When I was in dating mode, before I met my boyfriend, I had to ask everyone I went out with if they "partied." Over half of them did.
I've been there myself, and have been succesfully off it for over 4 years.
I do not believe an inanimate object like Tina is ruining our community. I beleive the choice to use it is ruining our community.
How do we help these guys make better choices? |
| Commit them to a detox facility and get them good education. Short of that, the only way they will get help is to want it for themselves. There's not a lot that us "normies" can do otherwise. |
How will it be with gay brothers in arms? What do you think about the law Obama has passed that allows gay men to serve? Will you like picking up the soap in boot camp now? |
From an Army perspective havings served 4 years in 3 countries, open homosexuality disrupts unit cohesion. This isn't about morals or fairness, it's about the logistics of war.
Consider the sort of individual that joins the Army. We have a mix of the super-patriotic, the dregs of society one step above vagrancy and jail, the religious fanatics (Oh don't get me started on the hyper-Christians eager to go kill heathens), the gullible and those who simply aren't cut out for anything in the civilian world.
Let's say a male makes a pass at another male in the Army. The second guy is not gay and freaks out about it. He feels threatened and offended, and may react quite violently. We have quite a few uneducated knuckle-draggers, and some of them make our best door-kickers. You are not going to change the minds of these soldiers on issues like homosexuality. It is in the best interest of the Army to keep a lid on it. Allowing homosexuals to serve openly would cause a significant drop in performance, far outweighing any gains from theoretical performance by homosexuals. Everyone currently in the Army joined under either "No homosexuals" or "Don't ask, don't tell." To suddenly change the rules on the people in the military will cause a lot of conflict. If only 10% of soldiers in the Army have a problem with open homosexuality severe enough that it affects their performance, are the open homosexuals going to make up that performance gap?
A frequently raised objection is the barracks situation. If you have sixty male soldiers sharing one shower area, and you allow homosexuals to serve openly, should we also have the men shower with the women? Or perhaps we should have the gay men shower with the women and the gay women shower with the men. It is an issue that no number of Equal Opportunity Power Point slides will get rid of. In the military you frequently share very close quarters, and sexual tensions can run high. Males and females sleep in separate areas for a reason, and open homosexuality makes the barracks a no-win situation for the person in charge.
Sexual tension aside, consider the mission that the Army does. If you're the Sergeant of a unit, and you say "Private Joe, go clear that room." Private Joe goes into the room and gets shot. Private Joe was gay. His family files a lawsuit claiming you sent him into danger because he was gay, even though you did it because you knew Private Joe was your best room clearer and had a solid record of room clears. The lawsuit gathers immense media attention, and your career in the military is effectively over. You won't get promoted while there's this allegation over your head, you won't get any awards and you'll be relegated to some menial desk job while the media frenzy ensues. Even once the trial court finds you not guilty because you were lucky enough to keep careful performance records and could show that Private Joe was your best room clearer... your career is in shambles and will never recover. If you had been like most and didn't keep those precise performance records, you'd probably be kicked out of the Army with an "Under other than honorable conditions" discharge. What leader in the Army wants to open that can of worms in wartime?
Other issues that have been raised in this subject is that homosexuals have the 'right' to serve their country openly. That's not true. When you join the military, you give up a LOT of rights. You agree to follow a set of behavior that enforces conforming to an established standard. Yes, homosexuals have to give up the right to be openly homosexual to serve in the military... but that's just one more bullet point on a massive Power Point slide of things that everyone in the military is prohibited from doing.
Of significance to point out: The number of people discharged from the military for homosexuality has dropped for seven of the past nine years, with one third as many people discharged in 2009 as 2000. Proof: en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Don't_ask,_… . |
How do i know if my brothers gay? I think my brother might be gay I'm 15 and he is 16 he has only ever ha 3 girl friends and the last one was 2 years ago. I know for a fact he never kissed ether of them. All his friends including the girls are gay or bi. His best friend is gay, they hang round all the time and they have sleep in the same room alone allot. I wouldn't care if he was gay. So do you think he's gay or bi? |
You say you wouldn't care if he was gay. In that case, leave it be. He may not be ready to discuss it with anyone yet. He may be afraid that your parents might not be as accepting as you seem to be.
If you can do so subtly, drop hints when it's just the two of you that you ar accepting of gay guys. it might bring him around to saying something to you , but don't push it. It's something that should be left to him to decide. |
Why are people hating on our gay brothers? The hate has to stop!? Why are people hatng on our gay brothers.We deserve to have a life! Why people keep pointing there fingers at us saying we started the gay aids. We didn't start it,it was Howard Dean! |
| I am not gay, but surely in the modern world this hate is poison, always has been and always will be. I respect your right to your way of life. Unfortunately there are many who don't because they are the ones with the problem. Just take care of yourself, enjoying who and what you are, and care not a toss for anything else, because life is too short. |
Is it possible to have 2 gay brothers and 2 lesbian sisters? how many gay people are in ur family? |
prolly.
i have a gay aunt, gay uncle, prolly a gay cousin, and i'm bi. |
Why do people say that the Jonas Brothers are Gay? I am like the jonas brothers #1 fan and everyone at my school and my family and friends say that they are gay. WWWWWHHHHHYYYYY? |
| i think it is SOOOOO stupid too.. i think its the no sex till marrige thing.. i think its nice and pure for them to do that and sweet to respect girl instead of just having sex for like the first date....i personally myself LOVE the jonas brothers and i think the are NOT gay or stupid and why are they together all the time??? some people as...wellll.......... BECAUSE THEY ARE A BAND AND HAVE A CONCERT MOSTLY EVERSINGLE DAY DUMASSES!! SO STOP TRASHING THEM!! ITS STUPID AND RUDE WHEN YOU DONT EVEN KNOW THEM PERSONALLY OR HAVE EVER EVEN SAID ONE WORD TO THEM!! THEY ARE COOL AND AWSOME SO SSSSSSTTTTTTTTTTTTOOOOOOOOOOOPPPPPPPPPPP… |
Where are all my gay brothers and sisters? I get on Yahoo Answers to join up with my LBGT family for a little light hearted nonsense and we're listed under Cultures & Groups, right there with the "Disabled" and "Senior Citizens".
Even Yahoo has some issues with us, huh? |
Hey, what do you have against the disabled and those who may be older than you?? = [
Many people dislike us LGBTs for something we have no choice in. Why would you show the same dislike for others?? Not cool, dude.
LGBTs - We're the ones who care! Remember that! |
Why do people care if the Jonas Brothers are gay or not? I'm not even a fan of the Jonas Brothers, but it irritates me when people say that they are gay as if it's a bad thing. None of them have said they were gay anyways, so unless they do I'm gonna believe they are straight.
So, why do people care if they are gay or not? |
| You know, that's a really good question and I feel the same way. I love how people claim to hate them so much, yet spend all their time talking about them. Now a day, being gay is no longer taken as a bad thing necessarily. There are plenty of celebrities that are gay like Adam Lambert and Ellen DeGenerous. They are just looking for insults, yet failing miserably. Hope I helped :-) |